Mom fail #5982: No Baby Book for Annie.

Every year on the kids' birthdays I pull out their baby books or the journals I write them and we look at pictures and talk about when they were babies and the cute, funny things they did and said.  I tell them how big they were when they were born, what time they were born, what some of the first things they did when they were born.  They ask when they first started walking, what their first word was, how they said certain words, who was the most active, who was the best sleeper.....they love it.  I also kept journals of each pregnancy, so I would tell them what I was craving, show them pictures of how big my tummy was and what their heart beat was at each doctor visit.

This year, for Bella and Ethan's birthdays, we pulled them out again....except there was a big boo-boo.  Annie asked, "where's mine?"  Oh CRAP.  Um.....on Facebook?  It didn't even register to me that she didn't have a baby book!!!  I have a pregnancy journal for her, but I think every year, I just show her pictures on Facebook and read her the journal I write to her.  Plus she's the baby and everyone remembers everything about her, so she's inundated with information.  It didn't matter.  She was devastated.  I told her all her baby pictures were on the computer and I even pulled up the album and showed them to her....I thought she seemed satisfied, until she brought me a little notebook with torn out pages and said, "mommy, I tore out the pages I wrote in, so we can make me a baby book."  Oh My GOSH.  EPIC FAIL.  It was the saddest thing I had ever seen!!!

So, I told her we would make her a special baby book.  I then proceeded the save all the pictures from Facebook to my computer (I didn't want to waste the time actually finding them on the computer) so I could upload them to Costco's website and have them printed.  The problem was, this happened in the throws of Bella and Ethan's birthday parties and I didn't have time to upload them, pick them up and go buy a baby book.  This was something I wanted to do with her.....and every day, my little sweetheart would ask me, "is it time to go to Costco yet to get my pictures?".  I've never felt worse as a mother.  Seriously.  I felt like I completely forgot about her, and that's the last thing I've ever wanted one of my children to feel.  I felt so guilty.

Finally working on her baby book!!

When this happened, my friend was here and she's the oldest in her family.  She gave me this look of, "oh crap! That sucks, but it's kinda funny!"  because we all have heard of the 3rd child syndrome or the forgotten child.  It's like it's a running joke in the world.  When you have your first child, you do everything.  You record everything. Every little detail.  Bella has 2 baby books, a scrapbook, a baby calendar, and a journal.  Then the second child comes a long.  You're busier....so there's a little less done.  Ethan only has 2 baby books, one of them isn't fully filled out. (don't ask me why the kids have 2 books? I don't even know.)  And then the 3rd child arrives.....it's typically a bit chaotic.  You no longer have enough arms or bodies to control everyone.  You are out numbered.  So, as we all know, Annie doesn't have a baby book.

It was fun looking at baby pictures. :)

In my defense, when Bella and Ethan were born, the digital age was just coming about and film was still prevalent, so I had to have physical pictures of them.  By the time Annie was born, everything was online.  The only reason I have printed pictures of her is because I want to frame them.  Oh, well.  Let this be a lesson to those of you who haven't reached this point in parenting yet.....don't let it happen!!  And if you're there, go buy a baby book now or have one made online before they realize they don't have one! :)

We finally sat down together and worked on her baby book.  She was in heaven.  We talked about everything....every little detail.  And the best part was that she actually decorated her baby book....with glitter.  What's anything to Annie without glitter?  She cut out all her own photos and glued them in place....picked out the ones she wanted to use, even.  So, this turned out more special that I could have even imagined.  It really was her baby book, and it's also a moment that was redeemed and now she will never forget.  

The Legacy.

I've kept this blog light-hearted.....but today, I'm not, so be prepared.  I'm about to explain why I've been away for the past 3 months. I'll start by giving you my background.

 I have a wonderfully LARGE family. I am fortunate to have so many siblings and parents who are in my life.  I'm the oldest of 8 kids.....3 of us are from Danny and Sherry....I have 2 half brothers from Danny and Jureen....and I have 3 step-siblings from Sherry and Jeff.  The 3 "whole" siblings were also raised by a step-father, I haven't yet mentioned, Terence, who Sherry was married to for 23 years....they didn't have any biological children of their own.  Are you confused yet?  We are America's modern family.  We could be a television show.

family camping circa 198?

I want to focus on my life in the 23 years Terence and Sherry were married.  I was in 4th grade when this life began.  My brothers, Eric and Andrew were 5 and 3.  We lived in Wyoming.  We had a wonderful childhood.  We were a close family.  Like I said before, Terence, we called him Pop, and my mom, didn't have any other biological children together.....we kids were so fortunate.....so blessed to have Pop.  There was never a moment where he was a step-father to us.....he was always Pop. He loved us like a Pop, treated us like a Pop, protected us like a Pop, disciplined us like a Pop.  He was my father.  Just like my biological father.  No different.  I love them both the same.

Fast forward from when I was 9 to when I was 29.....Mike and I made the move from Oklahoma to Washington to be closer to family.  Everyone lived in Gig Harbor.  We had just had our 3rd baby and life was wonderful.  Three months after we moved, our world changed.  It shattered.  My Pop was given a terminal diagnosis of Prostate Cancer.  He survived 3 more years and passed away on August 19th, 2012.....the day before our youngest baby, Annie turned 4.  The images will never leave my mind....my heart will never be the same.....my life will never be the same.

This summer, this August 19th was Pop's 1 year anniversary.  This summer I was a wreck.  I couldn't bring my self to the grips of having to move on with my life.  I thought, "society typically gives people one year grace to grieve, and then says, OK, time to move on......I'M NOT READY.  I DON'T WANT TO MOVE ON!!!!!"  I couldn't imagine my life without my Pop.  He wouldn't be there to see Annie turn 5 and go to Kindergarten.  He wouldn't see Ethan play his first season of tackle football.  He wouldn't see Bella's moving on ceremony from 5th grade.  He wouldn't see any of them graduate

Pop & my kids 2009

from High School or get married or go to Prom or college or have their own babies.  I broke down crying practically every day this summer.  My Pop wasn't here to give me advice when I needed it. When Mike and I needed prayer.  Every day as the anniversary date got closer, I got worse.  I wasn't sleeping, I gained weight, I was anxious.  I called my mom crying every day.  I prayed and prayed and prayed.  It was horrible.  Then August 18th came......I started to look on Facebook for a picture of us to put as my profile picture.  As I looked I started to see this life that he built.  This amazing family.   All in just 23 years.  And it extended so much further than just me and my mom and my 2 brothers.  It extended to my husband and our 3 children.....to my brothers and their families.....Then I saw it for the first time.  The LEGACY.  He built this amazing Legacy....and I'm part of it....and then I wasn't heart broken any more....I was blessed.  I wasn't sad any more.....I was thankful.

our ugly sweater family photo 2011

Thank you Pop.  I will miss you everyday, but I will continue to remember and build on what you've taught us and given us.  I love you.

I'm not pretty because I don't have blonde hair.

I struggled with my self image all through life.  I don't particularly remember when it started, but I think I became aware, maybe around 4th or 5th grade when my friends and I started to wear bras and go through puberty.  I don't remember being self conscience though.  The first time I remember being self conscience was when I was a senior in high school.  That spring I went from a size 3 to a 5 during track season due to building muscle in my thighs.  I remember feeling devastated.  I also remember being in the weight room around the same time and stepping on the scale and weighing 122 and saying to my friend, who was 116, "uggh.  I'm so fat."  OMG.  I think I would look sick if I weighed 122 today!  I can't even imagine being that small again. 

I struggled with that through college.....floating between a size 3 and 5.  Only feeling good enough if I was the "ideal" size.  There was this girl at the gym at UW.  I would see her there every day and it was obvious she was anorexic.  I remember thinking....geez....that's horrible....she needs to get some help.  Yet, there I was, at the gym every day along side her on the treadmill and though I wasn't struggling as obvious physically as she was, my mindset was the same as hers.  What I looked like wasn't good enough.  I wasn't good enough.
*A little background on me: I wasn't raised in the pageant system and I didn't do sports that required me to stay small and petite.  I didn't have subscriptions to teen vogue and my mom didn't have subscriptions of Cosmo hanging around either.  I'm not saying that these are "causes" of self image but they are certainly stereotypical causes.*

Fast forward 15+ years, I have 2 daughters of my own.  Before I even had Isabelle (my oldest), I vowed I would do everything in my power to raise her so she would not struggle with the same things I did.  These things included:
1. Never saying "I'm ugly or I'm fat."
2. Never talking about going on a diet around her.
3. Never weighing myself around her.
4. When we talk about food, we talk about eating healthy and the purpose of eating healthy and why we don't over eat certain foods.  Not because they'd make us gain weight but because of the million other things they'd do to our body....possible cause of diabetes, toxins in the food, etc.  And all the reasons to eat good foods....antioxidants to fight cancer, protein to help build strong bones and muscles, etc.
5. When we talk about exercise, it's not because we want to lose weight, it's because we want to be healthy on the inside and take care of the bodies we were blessed with.

These things I was very adamant about and made sure I carried them over to my younger daughter, Annie.  As a grown, woman, who has had 3 children, I have the body to show it.  Curvy, some stretch marks and pre-baby weight from Annie but not even close to pre-baby weight of Bella! (haha!)  So, these struggles are ones I still obviously have, but like I said, I am adamant that I not project these insecurities onto my daughters.  I don't want them being 34 and STILL struggling.

With all this said, Annie and I were laying in bed this morning talking.  We were talking about all her little friends she has and that one of them was coming over.  (I will call her friend Sally and for background sake, I have a younger step sister who is 13 with the same name and who really struggles with self image and is very verbal about it.)  Here's how the conversation went:
Annie: Sally is so pretty.  All Sally's are pretty.  Especially big Sally.
Me: Yes.  Sally is pretty.
Annie: I wish I was as pretty as Sally.
Me: You are!  You are beautiful.
Annie: No I am not.  I'm not pretty because I don't have blond hair.
Me:  You don't need blond hair to be pretty.  You are just as pretty as she is.
Annie: not if I don't have make-up on.

Our conversation went on longer, but to make a long story short, I started naming people in her life with brown, black or red hair and asked if they were pretty....all to which she responded, yes. (Maybe I didn't respond right, but I think the brunette inside of me wanted to make a point that we're just as pretty as blonds. ;) ) Then I told her she didn't need make-up to be pretty because Jesus already made her pretty without it and that make-up is just for fun.  Sounds like a conversation I'd be having with a preteen, right.  Nope....she's 4. 

Annie putting eye shadow on @ 15 mo. old.

Chalk this up to another moment in motherhood where my heart broke.  How did this happen?  I've tried so hard to protect her from this, and encourage her and build her self esteem.  I've parented her no different than Bella.  She doesn't have any friends that are a bad influence and I know this because she's still at the age I can control her life....thank God.....can it be like this forever???? :)  Sigh.  What do I do?  I've been on google all morning researching good books and websites, but honestly, they're all aimed at teens and preteens.  What about preschoolers? I know that sounds crazy, but she can't be the only one who is influenced by older cousins, aunts, siblings, etc.  How do you explain this to a little girl whose personality is very princess-y and girly.  Who, from the age of 15 months has loved make-up and jewelry and nail painting. (If you know me or ask anyone who does, make-up isn't an everyday thing for me...so she definitely wasn't under my influence!)  I don't feel the need to take it away because that's part of who she is, but I also want her to understand she doesn't need it to be beautiful.  This is an issue I'm sure Mike and I will be wading through for at least the next 16 years.  I guess I'm happy I realized her personality type is susceptible to it now, so we can walk through it with our eyes open. 

Annie reminds me of the character, Fancy Nancy. :)

Annie chased down the "princesses" at the festival!

Life Isn't Fair, But Mom Is.

Disclaimer:  To keep this light-hearted, I am going to stay away from the harsh realities of fairness in the world, that I know everyone has experienced. <3

Life isn't fair.  This is something we all know and have experienced.  I am going to do some "First World Whining" here....

It's not fair when someone cuts in front of you at Starbucks.
It's not fair that some women don't even have to try to lose their "baby weight".
It's not fair when you go to get the a slice of pizza and the person in front of you grabs the last one.
It's not fair that I have feel like my uterus is exploding every month.
It's not fair that when you order from McDonald's but didn't check your order right away and find out  it's wrong but you're too far away to drive back, so you have to eat it anyway.
It's not fair that I didn't get my mom's side of the family's breast size. 

 From the time we had our second child (Ethan), I had this mindset that everything between our kids  had to be fair and even.  If we got something for Bella, we had to get something for Ethan and vice-versa.   If I was walking through the store and saw something that Ethan would LOVE and I just had to get it for him, I started looking for something for Bella, too because I couldn't come home without something for her.  At Easter, no matter how many eggs you found, we emptied out the baskets and evened out the eggs.....the same for Halloween candy.  At Christmas time, they had the same amount of "santa" gifts, regular gifts and stocking stuffers.  Since their birthdays are only 2 days apart, I always made sure they had the same amount of birthday gifts.  They had the same bedtime, if one kid had a play date, I would make sure the other would, too and if I couldn't get one, either Mike or I would take them to do something special.  We would seriously go out of our way to make sure every thing was even and fair between them.  If grandparents sent gifts, we'd try to control that, too......I know.  I sound really crazy.

I don't know what it was.  I never felt cheated growing up.  In fact for me, it was probably the opposite because I'm the only girl.  If I really think about it, I'm wondering if it's because I was initially worried the other child wouldn't feel as loved and eventually I was worried the other child would feel bad and jealous and I just wanted to prevent a bad situation.  I was trying to "protect" them from a very important life lesson.  I was doing them and injustice.....I wasn't teaching them how to react and learn through the simple fact that life just isn't fair.  You're not always the winner.  You're not always going to be the fastest.  You're not always going to be the star.

I honestly didn't realize this until a few years ago when I was talking with a friend.   She was telling me how they do their Easter egg hunt....in one of the eggs, they put a $1 and who ever finds it, keeps it.  I immediately asked her, how do the kids deal with that?  Her answer was simple.  Life isn't fair, and they are learning that.  At first the kids had a hard time (her kids are the same age as mine) but they explained that's how it was, and didn't say much more.  Eventually, over the years, they've learned.  I even think she said the same son found it 2 years in a row, and the second year he graciously gave it to his brother. :)

The Flying Squirrels 1st win!

Our kids have slowly learned this lesson, especially because they are in sports.  Each year is different.  The last 2 years in basketball, Bella has been on the best teams (undefeated) and has been the star player....but this year, their team only won 2 games and though she was one of the best players on the team, she wasn't the top scorer as she was used to being.  It was definitely a learning season for her.  We watched the entire team of girls go through the season.  At first they were discouraged after the first few games....then when they realized they were playing their best and the teams were just bigger and better, they became happier and continued to try and improve and they never gave up.

 

 

Ethan's football pic

The same thing with Ethan....for the last 2 years, he has played flag football.  His first year, his team was undefeated and he was the top scorer with at least 2 touchdowns per game.  This year his team only lost 2 games and he again, scored every game.  I'm wondering how this fall will go.  It will be his first year to play tackle football and it will be a learning curve.  He will also be one of the smallest on his team.  Hopefully we can help him walk through it gracefully if it turns out to be harder than he anticipates.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I am honest, I haven't made a big change in the fairness arena.  I'm still a bit intimidated by my kids' reactions.  I have though taken any opportunity that arises to talk with them and walk them through situations where life is "giving them lemons".  I've also implemented a chore chart (2 years ago), where they move a spot when a chore is done and when they get to the top (there's 26 spots), they get $5.00.  This has been a good learning tool in fairness.  They see they have to work for it and that we're not showing favoritism.  They understand it.  I suppose lessons will arise time after time and I can just make sure to help them go through it......that way, they can keep the same bedtimes. :) Life's not fair, but mom is. :) 

*I have stopped trying to control the gift giving from relatives, though!

our chore "game"

And We're Stepping Into a New Phase.....

Bella turned 11 this year!

May is always a big month for us, mostly because both Ethan and Bella's birthdays fall here.  It becomes birthday madness as I have confessed before I go overboard with birthday and holidays.  This year proved to be no different.  I had no choice but to throw back to back parties due to scheduling issues.  Bella had 10 friends sleep over (ten 10 year old girls....screaming....and chasing each other.....and screaming...until 2 am.) Friday night and Saturday, Ethan had 8 friends for an outdoor Boy vs. Wild party.  It took me 3 days to recover from feeling completely exhausted.

Ethan turned 9!

This year, it was bigger....we had more going on that just birthdays.  We had more than one transition to walk through.  Not just Mother's Day, either.....which, thankfully was low key.  This year, the month of May was all about change, moving on, transition, new phases in life, new chapters, getting older (insert sad face and sigh).

All through out my life, I have embraced the new phases that have come.  When I think about it though, it's really because they've been fun and exciting!  Graduating from high school and going to college....turning 21......finishing college.....getting married.....having our first baby....having our second baby.....buying our first house.....having our third baby....turning 30.......and then the "fun" pretty much ended there.  OK......don't get me wrong.  Hear me out before you start getting all upset and judging me.  I would be really surprised it some of you moms didn't feel the same way.  Maybe your transition didn't happen at the same age, but at the same STAGE as me.  Do you see what stage I'm talking about?  Where all the major "FIRSTS" are done and the "YOUNG" part of life has gone.  Yes, the 30's are still young....so are the 40's and I'm sure when I'm in my 50's they will still be young, too. :)

Annie "accepting her diploma"!

Back to my point, this May marked my official transition into the next phase of my life.  I am no longer in the "baby making phase" and I have also moved on from having any children at home with me during the day. :(  Yup, this May, our youngest, Annie "graduated" from preschool and (sorry to rat you out babe) my husband graciously had a vasectomy.  Sigh.  And we're stepping into a new phase......this one, I'm not sure about.  If you want me to be honest, it just makes me feel old and a bit scared. What is this new phase of being a mom like?  My baby is headed off to Kindergarten in the fall which means I'm going to be a mom of all school aged kids.  Everyone will be gone from 8:30-3:30.  I will have all this "free time".   If you had asked me a month ago if I was looking forward to all the kids being in school during the day, my answer was a resounding, "YES!!!".  The fantasy of all this time to myself, to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted was amazing.  Ask any mother who has children at home....the thought of that is a dream.   Now when you ask me, I'm a little unsure....unsure of what it's like to be by myself.  I have to remember out who I AM again.  Who I am without kids hanging off my hip 24/7.  Maybe that's what's so scary.   I won't be one of those young moms all cute and pregnant again, which I loved.  When you see me at the grocery store, I won't have an adorable baby in the cart or strapped to me.  I won't breastfeed again.  I can't be part of the preschool co-op. This is a life I've known for 11 years.  Always having young children right next to or on me, getting minimal sleep, hearing little voices and the pitter-patter of little feet running in the house during the day.  I'm sad to leave it behind.  I'm a bit scared to get older.

Bella's 1st day of Kindergarten

Ethan's Kindergarten Party

 I know, I know.....I'm starting to sound like "Negative Nancy" and not seeing the positives of the situation.  I hope you all understand what I'm saying....I'm going to miss this part of my life and I do look forward to the future and watching my children grow.  Plus, I have plans.  Plans to be at the gym 2 hours a day like I did before kids. :)  Plans on actually making a phone call to a friend without having to ask her to hold on while I scold my kids in the background.  Plans on doing my hair and make-up every day.....shoot....plans to shower every day.  Plans on picking up a hobby.  Plans to just carry a wallet or clutch to the store instead of a huge purse filled with snacks and miscellaneous games to keep my kids busy while I shop. Plans to even have an afternoon lunch date with my husband.  I'm sure I'll survive the transition, as have the many moms before me.  :)

This is dedicated to all my friends who little ones are moving on and you are having to move on, too.  We can do this and maybe we can even start having our own "play dates" over lunch and margaritas.

Icing on the Cake.

We had a little blow up in our house the other day.  I had bought the kids new buckets to take to the beach.  Annie was with me when I got them, so she chose the colors for all of them: Green for her, Yellow for Bella and Orange for Ethan.  That did not go over well with her siblings.  Bella freaked out because her favorite color is green and Annie claimed her new favorite color is green and Bella said she was just copying her and Annie argued back.  Then Ethan chimed in and said Annie was being selfish and Annie started crying and Bella was crying because I wouldn't just give her the green bucket and Ethan got upset because I asked him to step out of the situation.  At this point the 2 girls would not be quiet so I could get a word in....and my fuse was burning FAST.  To be honest, I was most upset at Bella because she is almost 11 and it was over a STUPID BUCKET!!!  What was the big deal?  It wasn't like I bought Annie a new green car and made Bella drive a pink one.  And even if I had, I was upset that the entitlement over the green bucket arose over the greatfullness of getting a new bucket in the first place.  So, I told her she had a choice of having the yellow bucket or no bucket.  She chose NO bucket!  OMG.  I was pissed.  I immediately had her deliver the new, yellow bucket to our 4 year old neighbor as a gift.  (Another instance came up that day involving the older 2 fighting over a basketball and this time it was with Mike.)

Mike and I had a long conversation later that evening about how astonished we were that our children were acting so ungrateful and entitled and selfish.....where did we go wrong?  What had we missed?  Then we realized what we needed to do.  We needed to (not only punish them for their actions also have consequences) talk to them about what is really important in life.  Cliche, I know, but it's true.  Had Bella known what really matters in life, would she have freaked over the bucket?  Had Bella and Ethan really known what was important would they have fought, and if they still fought, would they have chosen to forgive each other easier and quicker?  If Mike and I had known what really mattered in life a year ago, would we have felt the need to "keep up with the Joneses"?

my Pop and my kids: Father's Day 2012

My Pop (step-dad of 24 years) passed away last August.....he lost a 3 year battle with cancer.  During that time, I remember my mom saying several times, "does it matter who does ______?  Pop is dying!"  She was right.  We wasted moments arguing or being mad at each other when we could have been spending time supporting each other and spending more time with Pop. (This wasn't something that happened often, but you get the point) Our family lost so much when we lost Pop.....so much, I can't even begin to list it all.  Life can change in an instant....don't waste time on insignificant things.

Yesterday was Mother's Day.  Mike and the kids made me a really SWEET banner covered in their feet and hand prints that said: "These feet will always run to you and these hand will always hug you."  We spent the day at the beach, came home and had a nice dinner together. 

We always talk at dinner time.....things like: What was your favorite part of today? What's your favorite animal? And we go around the table and share.  Last night Mike and I talked with them about what's really important.  I asked them, would you rather have a big house with a pool, instead of mommy?  Would you rather have a billion dollars than daddy?  Would you rather have more toys than have your brother or sister?  When we put it that way, they got it.

We then had them share something they are thankful for that money couldn't buy. 
Ethan said: dinner time with my family. 
Bella said: cuddling with mommy and daddy before bed. 
Annie said:  building forts with Bella and Ethan and Daddy and Mommy. 

Anything more than your family is just icing on the cake.  If you can be content with that, you can be content anywhere.

Mommy's Favorite Food is Macaroni

It's almost Mother's Day.....which means, if you have school aged children, you'll most likely receive handmade gifts and cards! I love these gifts.  They're honestly my favorite.  I use the clay bowl like things they form and paint to put my jewelry in and frame the pictures they paint even thought I'm not exactly sure what it is they have painted.  One of my favorite things to get are the cards.  I like when teachers ask them questions about me and write down their answers.  I was talking to a friend the other day and we came up with 2 types of answers the children give: #1 they give answers that are actually about them....example: 'Mommy's favorite game to play: "baby dolls!"' and #2 they give away your deepest, darkest secrets.

Yes.  Your children tell their teachers EVERYTHING. Besides you, your children are with their teachers the most and they trust them.  By trade, I am a teacher.  I stopped working outside the home when I had my 3rd child.  My last experience teaching was with 4 and 5 year old children.  You wouldn't believe what I know about their parents.  I know that one girl's mommy "doesn't like it when daddy goes golfing because he always drinks beer"  and a little boy's grandpa was so "stopped up, he needed special medicine."  And one more doozy for you: one little girl's mommy "had a boob job".  What ever you say, they tell us.  Even if you think they aren't listening.  Even my kids have done it.  Earlier this year at school, Annie was playing in the kitchen area and there were bottle shaped drinking containers......if I remember correctly, she said something like, "oh, would you like some beer?" Her teachers got a laugh out of that one.

My most recent Mother's Day card revealed that my favorite food is macaroni.  You may be thinking, oh, she answered that question with her own answer.  Well, actually, no.  Though macaroni may not be my FAVORITE food, I do eat it quite often and I do love it and she does notice.  This isn't homemade macaroni.  It isn't even organic macaroni.  It's good ol' Kraft macaroni, straight from the box. Healthy as ever.  All the while I'm "watching what I eat" haha.  The card also revealed that my favorite t.v. shows are: "grown-up movies".  That's what I tell her when she asks if she can watch a show (Grey's Anatomy) with me...."no honey, you can't watch this, it's a grown up movie."  Thank GOD she didn't mix up the words 'grown up' with 'adult'.....I probably would have gotten called into the school.  All her answers were very cute and true.....and her last answer was the best:  What does mommy do after she drops you off at school? "She goes home and does laundry and cleans the kitchen".  Hahaha!  Score 1 point for looking like I have it all together!!!

Though it may be too late this year, remember for next year to start "behaving" a few weeks before Mother's Day so your cards will reveal some not so embarrassing answers.  Oh, and if you don't want your child's teacher to know something, don't tell your child. :)

So, Happy Mother's Day to all you mom's out there....you deserve it.

P.S. Thank your child's teacher today because despite what they know about you, they still love your child. :)

For Laughs, Here are some Mother's Day cards I found on Pintrest......